It's okey to get the heck out

Before you first date begins, I want you to make a conscious decision. It , at any point, your date feels not quite right to you - if there's a look that gives you the willing or a remark that sends the hairs on the back of your neck standing on end, immediately do the following:

1. Do a really check. Flat out ask, "What did you mean by that?"

If your date shuffles his feet or she blushes scarlet, you'll know it was probably just a faux pas and not a sign of something more sinister.

2. Look at body language, and if your date's body language makes you uncomfortable, move yourself away.

Is your date standing in an aggressive manner (hands on hips, feet planted, staring) or sitting too close? You're entitled to feel absolutely comfortable.

3. Survey your surroundings.

Are people around? Is the lighting sufficient? Does the location put you on alert?

4. Listen to your own body

Sometimes your body knows what you head may be denying. Listen to your heart beat. Is it a smooth, steady rhythm or a deep, resonant pounding? Do you feel yourself running out of breath even though you're sitting still? Decide whether you're excited because you're turned on or terrified. There is a difference even though the clues are quite similar.

5. Evaluate all the cues, listen to your gut, and if you still feel uneasy - get yourself out of there.

Plead illness, a headache - it's okey to be a fraidy cat. Dating supposed to be fun and exciting, not scray!