Male and Female Sexuality

Six is much more of a learned response. Female genitalia is hidden and the messages that society gives women is to basically ignore any sexual impulses that they might have but use sex to entrap men. Balderdash. Everybody is sexual from the seventh month of gestation onward. It's how society teaches us to feel about our bodies that effects us. The best way for a woman to enjoy sex is to trust her partner, know her body, feel comfortable in her own skin, and be an active participant in her own life, pleasure, and sexuality.

Most guys will admit that there are different kind of orgasms and that ejaculating and having an orgasm aren't always the same thing. Feeling emotionally involved makes things a lot more intense. Feeling close to your partner makes men (and women) much more willing to please and feel vulnerable. While it's harder for men to "fake" it, it's just a big mistake. All God's children have the right to feel good.

Don't Compare

I'm absolutely sure that no one who has the good sense to read this blog would ever by tacky enough to compare sex partners out loud, not to a friend, not to a locker room acquaintance, and certainly not to a current date. (If you are tacky enough to do this, please don't tell me about it - I definitely don't want to think of you like that - and clean up your ect.)

Equally importantly, don't compare partners in your own mind. Then was then; now is now. Some folks have a great backhand, some dance well, and some tell a great joke. All of us want to be loved for the unique creature that each one of us is. If you don't want to be compared, don't compare. Love isn't a race to be won; It's not a competition; It's an experience to be savoured and nurtured and enjoyed. So no check lists please. You'll cheat yourself, big time.

Don't Fake it

Faking interest or orgasms is a short term solution to a long term problem (and simultaneous orgasm is a myth of romance novals and Hollywood). If you're faking it, you're giving out misleading information. Nothing will ever change or get better, and sooner or later you'll be found out, and the if you'll-lie-about-something-as-this-what-else-will-you-lie-about? question rears its ugly head. Sex is about intimacy, and intimacy is about trust, and trust is about integrity, and integrity is about honesty. And most of us aren't all that great at acting. (Remember how your mom always knew when you are lying? Probably hasn't changed all that much.)

If you're enjoying the sex, enjoy it honestly; if it's not working for you, figure out what you can do differently or what you can instruct your partner (gently and tactfully) to do differently.

Don't Confess

Possibly the only behaviour more fraught with potential disaster than sex is talking about previous sexual experiences. At least sex usually feels good and is fun for both; confession only geels good for the confessor. Blabbing about your sexual past is a good example of trading off short-term comfort for long-term pain - not such a terrific idea.

If you want to confess past indiscretions, find a priest or a therapist, not a date. Thinking that "I'm just being honest" is a terrible reason to inflict past experiences on a date. Confession is only good for the soul of the sinner, and it can wreck a perfectly good relationship. If what you want to confide is a problem, solve it yourself; if it's guilt, get over it; if it's bragging, tell your friends or your diary. Anything else will come back and haunt you.

If you are about to do something that would be hard to confess, you may want to consider not doing it. This isn't to say you have to pretend that you've just sprung fully armoured from the brain of Zeus or that you're the last Vestal Virgin, or that you have to lie. It's time to adopt the Clinton plan: Don't ask, Don't tell. Anything you are or aren't sexually is about here and now. If there is baggage, find a therapist, find a priest. It will not only add absolutely nothing positive to your relationship, but it will come back to haunt you. Comfort yourself with the thought that between honesty and duplicity is silence.

Beware of Back Rubs

I am a sucker for a great rub, but in a dating situation, if you haven't launched yourselves sexually, a tempting back rub has to be viewed as part of a package with a front rub. In other words, lying down, talking off your shirt and letting somebody touch you is pretty darn sexy, wouldn't you sexy? Don't tease.

If you want sex, a back rub may be a great prelude, but both of you need to understand that that's what's happening. If you want a back rub without sex, go to one of the storefront. great American back rub places or find a same sex masseuse or masseur

Pyar Ke Side Effects 2 - Akshay Kumar with Sonam Kapoor

Now, Pyar Ke Side Effects director Saket Chaudhary is ready with its sequel titled, “Pyar Ke Side Effects 2”. In the sequel of Pyar Ke Side Effects, Akshay Kumar and Sonam Kapoor will take over the roles of Sid and Trisha which were performed by Rahul Bose and Mallika Sherawat in the original flick. The Pyar Ke Side Effects music is by RD Burman’s music was to “Jhankaar Beats,

Now We want to see Sonam Kapoor with Akshay Kumar in Pyar Ke Side Effects 2.

Is this the death of online dating?

Is the death of dating and online dating around - atleast Google Trends say so. I was just wandering through the net when I found that Google Trends has shown huge fall in the searches for Dating & Online Dating while there has been a huge increment in searches for Social Networking.

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It may be because dating & social networking sounds same to many people alike but there's a big difference between the two. People would date someone for fun or to find their partners, and people even date with partners to escape from long working hours. While social networking makes you a social animal and you interact with people of different ages & backgrounds who match to your work profile, hobbies or interests.

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Dating would give you pleasure while social networking would give you references for jobs and you would come to know more about some topic.

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I would say that dating has now become a part of social networking. Let's see if dating diminishes further.

Don't Assume your date is responsible sexually

Assumptions about sexual responsibility can be literally fatal and at best, embarrassing. So talk about what you're about to do and what it means to both of you. If this conversation seems to get in the way of spontaneity, talk about it when both of you are dressed, sober, and maybe even in public.

Basically don't assume anything at any time if you don't absolutely have to. As my used car salesmen taught me when I was writing my dissertation, "Never assume. It make an ass of you and me" (Get it? ass you, me). You wouldn't assume a gun wasn't loaded before you pulled the trigger (enough Freudian imagery there for us all?).

Don't Have Unprotected Sex

Oh, puh-leeeze. If I have to explain this to you, you need to away from this blog for a couples of years. Not only must you protect yourself and your and your partner from sexually transmitted discease that can ruin or end your life, but from unwanted pregnancy as well.

The only way to be completely protected is to abstain, but if you decide to have sex, understand that a condom and a degree of caution is safer sex(is there really anything even remotely safe about sex? - truly a contradiction in terms), but the parts of your body that really need pretection re your heart and soul and mind. Make sure you are aware enough of your emotional needs and your partner's emotional needs to be responsible. Otherwise, fantasize, masturbate, and wait.

Women have been worried about getting pregnant since the caves, but men should worry too. The idea of having to support and care for a child for the rest of your life because you were feeling amorous one night and had too much to drink is a terrifying one. You get a woman pregnant, you're a father, ready or not. If you're not ready, then make sure you use a condom every time, period (and make sure you put it on and take it off right). Then when you and your beloved decide to have kids (and legalize your union for the kids' sake), you won't have to worry about any surprises knocking on your door same day and asking you to take a paternity test and attaching your paycheck. Do we understand each other? Good!

No Sleeping together until you're ready for sex

Think about in this way: You wouldn't go to a restaurant and then not order anything. Restaurants primarily are for eating.

You may be rereading this rule to make sure you read it right. After all, why else would two people who are dating climb into bed together if it isn't for sex? Well, I can give you lots of reasons: they're tired, too cheap to get two rooms, want a cuddle, cold, scared - the list goes on. The problem about all these reasons to get into bed together (and the words "I promise not to do anything until you're ready") is that they sound perfectly reasonable at the time. But it's not fair to either of you. If he makes a pass, he's an untrustworthy brute, and if he doesn't make a pass, you're convinced he's gay. Once you've launched the relationship and you know each other very well, it may be possible to be in the same bed without either of you wanting sex, but it's still complicated and needs to be discussed, which is a lot of hassle if you're just starting out.

Slow Down

Know the song about wanting a man with a slow hand (and we're not talking poker here)? Well, almost everything about sex are intimacy can be improved if it's slowed down and savored. Anticipation is heady stuff, and our most erogenous zone is the gray matter between our ears. If you're not convinced that going slow has much to recommend it. think about the difference between gobbing a hamburger at a fast food restaurant and dining out. You get the point.

Make sure you know what you're doing and what you want. I know sex wasn't designed to be thoughtful: It's an urgent, fast response, but we're not animals at the mercy of our hormones. We've got that big, fancy cortex on top of all our other organs for a reason.

Not only is it a good idea to go slowly in launching the initial sexual encounter, but once you're sexual, going slowly is a great turn-on (think of the good old days, when waiting until you were married made the wedding, the wedding night, and sex very special). Even if you decide to be sexual, the longer you wait and the longer you take, the happier, in general, both of you will be.

No House calls until you're Ready to Be Sexual

Being in somebody's house unchaperoned for any length of time is, at best, a mixed message. Home is an intimate place, and coming up to use the bathroom, have a night cap, check your machine, or watch a video is ambiguous. A home-cooked meal is nice, but you had better be willing to be dessert unless the entire family is gathering for the occasion.

If you are ready to have sex, a house with a bed is a real comfort. If you're not ready to have sex, a house with a bed is either a temptation or a tease. Careful here.

Don't Get Naked - Physically or Otherwise - Too soon

The problem about sex is not being physically naked, but - if you're doing it right - being emotionally naked. And being emotionally naked with a stranger is really tricky. Sex moves us at the speed of light past things we ought not to be moving past at all, the getting-to-know-you stage.

There are several ways to know when it's too soon for sex: when you don't know each other's middle name. When you haven't talked about protection, when you're doing it, 'cause you think it's expected, when you're just trying to show your parents they can't boss you, when you're afraid the guy won't call unless you do, or to prove that you're not gay.

There is only one real reason to have sex: because you really want to and you can accept the consequences(and then, for heaven's sake, be responsible and make sure nobody gets hurt, sick, or pregnant). You can see why it's often wise to wait.

Ten Sexual Commandments of Dating

In the old days - when dating was hanging out with a chaperone and the person your parents had arranged for you to marry when you were still in diapers - people could pine away for each other, and there was no risk of sex to soon. If you had sex before you were married, you were road kill, literally and figuratively. Now we have done away with chaperones, arranged marriages, and parental influence (who was the last date your parents liked?), and sex is still hanging there, tempting and dangerous.

Which is just fine! After all, sex is powerful stuff: basic, primordial, fun, messy, seductive - and therefore dangerous. This doesn't mean you have to avoid sex; it simply means you should treat it carefully and with respect, kinda like fire. You want it to warm you, not harm you (the burning up part I'll leave to your own personality structure).

It's okey to get the heck out

Before you first date begins, I want you to make a conscious decision. It , at any point, your date feels not quite right to you - if there's a look that gives you the willing or a remark that sends the hairs on the back of your neck standing on end, immediately do the following:

1. Do a really check. Flat out ask, "What did you mean by that?"

If your date shuffles his feet or she blushes scarlet, you'll know it was probably just a faux pas and not a sign of something more sinister.

2. Look at body language, and if your date's body language makes you uncomfortable, move yourself away.

Is your date standing in an aggressive manner (hands on hips, feet planted, staring) or sitting too close? You're entitled to feel absolutely comfortable.

3. Survey your surroundings.

Are people around? Is the lighting sufficient? Does the location put you on alert?

4. Listen to your own body

Sometimes your body knows what you head may be denying. Listen to your heart beat. Is it a smooth, steady rhythm or a deep, resonant pounding? Do you feel yourself running out of breath even though you're sitting still? Decide whether you're excited because you're turned on or terrified. There is a difference even though the clues are quite similar.

5. Evaluate all the cues, listen to your gut, and if you still feel uneasy - get yourself out of there.

Plead illness, a headache - it's okey to be a fraidy cat. Dating supposed to be fun and exciting, not scray!

Intuition versus paranoia

The trick is to distinguish between true intuition and the paranoia our society so easily fuels with all the in-your-face crime image on TV and in the papers. How do you do it? The best way is to start with trust. Trust your own instincts first. Tap into how you really feel, in your gut. If those gut feelings turn out to be wrong again and again, you'll know your intuition needs a little adjustment.

What intuition is

The word intuition comes from the Latin tuitionem which means "Guarding or protecting." Your natural intuition is a sort of sixth sense that allows you to "feel" something you can't see or touch or define. It's a way of processing information emotionally as well as intellectually that makes you feel everything is okey - or not.

Intuition is also what bonds you wordlessly to a person you don't know well. "I just have a good feeling about them." you say. And you are probably right. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that the tingly feeling you have as you walk through a deserted parking garage or the urge to walk on a well-lit street is sensible and will keep you safer than ignoring your body's warning signs.

Women's intuition, a common notion in the American vernacular, is actually true. Women do have a more finely tuned sixth sense than men. Perhaps a throwback from the Stone Age when women had to be hyper-alert not only for their own safety, but for their little cave babies too.